This is a great quote for people who have a tear in their eye wondering why The Secret isn't working for them. The truth is you can recite positive affirmations all day long. But if there is no action behind it nothing is going to happen.
You know in your heart when you are doing a good job or are just phoning it in. The less you do to reach your goals the lower your self esteem.
You can not fool yourself just by saying, I am healthy and slim while eating a donut. You are not going to fool your mind or your body into believing it. Your internal audience knows the truth.
You can recite positive mantras all day until you are blue in the face but if you don’t put passion and effort behind your words nothing is going to happen.
You need to work toward small daily improvements that align with your authentic self. That’s the only sure-fire way to boost your self esteem. By actively doing, you will see or more importantly feel a difference in your mood and self respect.
You can not trick your internal audience or inner voice into feeling good about yourself. You have to do the things that you know you should be doing to live a happy life.
Boosting your self esteem is easy with the target activities sheet. You can download it for free from this website. You can make your own. Or, buy my BREAK THE CYCLE WORKBOOK that has a target activities sheet at the beginning of each of the 16 weeks.
Along with the check marks for sleep, your meals and walking, there are lots of empty spaces. You can use these spaces to personalize it for small daily tasks that you can check off every day. It’s amazing how satisfying it is to use this simple tool.
I use my check sheet every day. Here is an example of what I put in my extra spaces which I have taken directly out of my personal journal. So along with the sleep, meals and walking, I have the following tasks that I try to do every day:
It’s funny how a little thing like showering or brushing my teeth can make a big difference to my mood. And they are easy check marks. I list these because when I am feeling down and crappy about myself even taking a shower seems like a big deal.
The writing on my activities sheet is for my long-term goals. They are specific to my goals to get some new books out there. I don’t need to write for long. Only 15 minutes to earn a checkmark.
You will, of course, have your own long-term goals. You can break them down into small daily activities. These small activities will keep you moving forward and help boost your self esteem.
If you are struggling with your weight and that’s your focus, watch a Chef AJ YouTube video every day. It will also help to keep you motivated to lose weight.
The target sheet method is really good if you are feeling stuck or you are just living your life without direction. Every check mark will help you feel stronger, better focused and happier each day.
Most importantly don’t get obsessive about it. Be gentle with yourself. Shoot for 80% of your check marks every day. Then you can rest your head on your pillow knowing you did a good job.